Chaela, Alexia, Nadyia, Lydia/Tyler the Viper

Once upon a time there was a man who had a divorce. We'll call him “Erik The Fool”
After the divorce he met a woman who had four kids. We can call her “The Viper”.
The kids needed to be removed from harm's way, because of the criminal behavior of one of the biological parents.
Safety for the kids was possible by adoption by the divorced man, Erik-The-Fool.
So “The Viper” with the four children said “Please adopt my kids away from their dangerous / damaging father.” And the divorced man said, “Sure.” What are their middle names again?” He did not know the kids very well, but he knew that their biological father should not continue to have any rights to them.
The Viper, who needed the children adopted-away assured “Erik-The-Fool” that it was for the kids' safety and future, that it wasn't like she was going to pursue child-support or a lifetime of expense on their behalf.

Erik was a fool, because he did not see what was going on.
He knew the Viper for three months. But he adopted all her kids anyway so they could live their lives permanently away from the biological father that had harmed them.

Then, she quickly filed for divorce, got $130,000 in Alimony and debt relief, plus seven years of child support totaling $240,000.

Within 30 days of the close of the divorce, “Erik-The-Fool” never heard from any of the children again. Even as he paid more than a quarter million in child support and another $12,000 a year in health insurance.

Did “Erik-The-Fool” actually NEED the appreciation of the kids?
No, they were pawns in the con. They owed no one anything.
Also no, appreciation was not really expected. After all, they were spawn of the woman, who was a sociopath and machiavellian. And the biological father was a Narcissist-sociopath as well. It could be assumed that the kids heard nothing but lies and venom from the Viper who plays the victim like Judy Dench plays every role she gets: Flawlessly.
How could the kids be EXPECTED to act?

So the Fool's money is all gone and so are the kids and it took a very long time for Erik-The-Fool to come to grips with 'Forgiveness'. And to put the kids' disappearance into a comfortable place in his mind.

Eventually he stopped dwelling on it because it would be like “not forgiving” a tornado, hurricane or earthquake that ruined his world. Those are impersonal forces. Just as is a Machiavellian / sociopathic woman. For a Viper, biting someone is normal. It's nothing personal. She would have used and abused anyone who met her needs.

And he played his part by being stupid and not asking his family and friends for their advice. He used poor judgment and made bad decisions. And it cost him $800,000 in total.

It's very probable that the four kids who carry the man's name (Chaela, Alexia, Nadyia, Lydia/Tyler the Viper) are not informed of what happened. Possibly not at all. It's probable that they were told that the man simply walked out. They may think that he never paid a dime in child support and attempted to make no contact.
But none of that is true.

  • The fact is, that as soon as their mother could turn the con into a revenue stream: She did.
  • The fact is, that SHE was the one who filed to divorce the man, not the other way around, and 
  • She chased him off, allowing him a total of NINE DAYS OF CUSTODY per *year*, threatening that if he fought that: She would drag out the divorce until he was broke.
  • The fact is, he paid every dime of child support for seven years, and every insurance premium.

In the end who really cares? People do whatever they want. They look out for “Number One” and they believe what they want to believe. And that's okay.

Helping the Viper reminds me of an old parable by Aesop.
” The Farmer & the Snake “

A Farmer walked through his field one cold winter morning. On the ground lay a Snake, stiff and frozen with the cold. The Farmer knew how deadly the Snake could be, and yet he picked it up and put it in his bosom to warm it back to life.

The Snake soon revived, and when it had enough strength, bit the man who had been so kind to it. The bite was deadly and the Farmer felt that he must die. As he drew his last breath, he said to those standing around:

    ” Learn from my fate not to take pity on a scoundrel.”

I feel genuine sadness for those associated with The Viper whether as family or acquaintances. Because in the final analysis, to the Viper, humans are simply “things” to be leveraged and used. Even if only for attention, and to be the center of it.

Once upon a time there was a man who had a divorce. We'll call him “Erik The Fool”After the divorce he met a woman who had four kids. We can call her “The Viper”. The kids needed to be removed from harm's way, because of the criminal behavior of one of the biological parents. Safety…